My Passion & Purpose

When my son was first diagnosed as Autistic, I remember feeling completely overwhelmed, unsure where to start, what to do, or how to support him in the best way. I had no experience or knowledge of what this diagnosis meant.

More than anything, I wished for someone who understood what it felt like to be in my shoes.

That’s why I created The Reset Lounge Collective.

It's a space with all the tools, resources and community that I wish I had access to when my son was first diagnosed.

In this space, I help you find clarity, calm, and gain confidence as you navigate this new chapter. I’m here to help you cut through the noise, understand the supports available, and most importantly, remember to care for yourself along the way.

Because when you take time to nurture your own wellbeing, your child sees that too.

Your child will reflect you, and learn that it’s okay to care for themselves, just as they are.

About Me - Lucinda Lane

Hi, I'm Lucinda (Lu),

I'm a married mum with two kids, a daughter and a son, who is neurodivergent (ADHD/Autistic), in a busy household of 2 doggos and a cat, and founder of The Reset Lounge Collective.

In my downtime, which is a very important part of my own well-being, I love our garden and getting outdoors. Exercise is part of my daily ritual, my non-negotiable, as is my meditation practice.

In my work, for more than 21 years, I’ve supported clients, many of whom are parents, go through big emotions, due to changes in life, and their busy lives, as a Remedial Massage & Bowen Therapist (now retired), Reiki Master, and Meditation & Mindfulness Teacher & Mentor.

One of the biggest things I have learned during these years, is that mental health matters, especially when you are a parent.

Since the COVID-19 pandemic, I've witnessed the impact on my clients mental health, the result of lack of support services, and for many, the isolation experienced due to the lockdowns. I've seen the toll it has taken on individuals and families overall health and well-being, especially those who have neurodivergent kids.

I felt I could do so much more to support parents like me, struggling to find balance and calm, while supporting their child/children.

This prompted me to become a Mental Health First Aider and to continue in my studies in Meditation, Psychology and Neuroscience.

Currently, I'm studying my Masters of Guiding and Teaching Meditation at The Australian Centre for Meditation & Mindfulness (nearly finished), AND

I'm completing my Degree of Psychological Science at LaTrobe University, with a focus on Neuroscience.

I created this space to help parents pause, reset, and breathe again, offering quick tools, simple mindfulness practices, and a welcoming community where you’re seen, heard, and understood.

From my experience and training, I also know that even the smallest pause and reset can spark the biggest shift for you and for the child that you love.

My hope is that The Reset Lounge Collective becomes your safe space to pause, reset and breathe, so you can build your own space of calm, clarity and gain the confidence that you and your family deserves.

You don't have to do this alone.

FAQS

Q. My child has just been diagnosed as being neurodivergent. What should I do first?

A. Take a deep breath. You are NOT alone. Start by giving yourself permission to feel any emotions, thoughts or feelings that may be arising. It can be anything from relief to grief to anger. It's normal to feel this way. Next, consider connecting with a qualified specialist (paediatrician, psychologist, occupational therapist, etc) who can guide you through the next steps. There may be considerable waitlists for some specialists, so talk to your child's GP about what you can do in the meantime to support your child. This may include support groups, art therapy or other holistic services. Remember, every family's journey is unique, and there is no "right way" to navigate this.

Q. Can children be diagnosed at any age?

A. Yes, absolutely! Being neurodivergent can be identified and diagnosed at ANY stage of life. Early intervention can help, but the foundations for support, understanding and self-compassion can begin at any stage of life, and are just as important for older children, adolescents, right through to older adults.

Q. My partner isn't onboard with our child's diagnosis. I'm struggling with this. Is it normal for partners to process this differently?

A. Ahhh, yes, this can be tough, some partners (and family members) do find it difficult. If you're looking at this question, I'm sorry that you're dealing with someone who isn't 100% aligned. I feel for you, it makes it just that little bit harder. What you can do is try and focus on creating small moments of understanding, where you may be able to communicate on one thing that will bring your partner some clarity or understanding on. They may need time and space to accept that their child is neurodivergent. Do seek support from trusted friends, family or professionals. Protecting your child's wellbeing and your own self-care is essential, even if your partner isn't fully aligned yet.

Q. How do I look after myself while caring for a neurodivergent child?

Self-care isn't selfish, it is ESSENTIAL. Small, daily "resets" like mindfulness practices or short meditations, gentle movement, or self-massage can help you recharge. Think of it as putting on your oxygen mask first, so you can fully support your child.

Q. How do I specialists who are knowledgable and supportive?

A. A good place to start is by asking trusted sources, like your GP, or if you are aware of other parents, for example at your child's school, who have neurodivergent kids, ask them who they go to or recommend. When looking online, look for professionals that use neuroaffirming approaches and use inclusive language. It's important to choose support people who will respect your child's uniqueness rather than trying to "fix" them. Your child is different, not less.

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Acknowledgement of Country

We acknowledge the Traditional Owners of the land where we work and live, the Wurundjeri Woi-Wurrung people of the Kulin nation and pay our respects to Elders past and present. We celebrate the stories, culture and traditions of Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander Elders of all communities who also work and live on this land.